All posts for the month March, 2014

Share My World Week 12

Published March 26, 2014 by Tritrigirl

I know, I know, I’m behind.  Shut your face, I’ll get there.  LOTS of reading to catch up on and LOTS of stuff in my brain.  *sigh*  Like that isn’t new.


But first, let’s go ahead with Cee’s Photography Share Your World Week 12.


What is your most favorite smell/scent?

This is a tough one because it depends on so many other things.  I love the smell of ham with a sugar glaze baking away or a good pot roast.  I love the smell of cookies (who doesn’t?) or bread right out of the oven.  The smell of my jasmine when it’s blooming and the windows are open.  The smell of freshly cut fields and overturned dirt when I’m out riding.  The smell of Texas BBQ…oh yes, BBQ (sorry weird-o Veg people).  The smell that Blueberry and Oreo have when they’re starting to wake up in the morning, I call it sleepy puppy smell and it’s not a dirty dog stench, it’s just a sleepy puppy smell.

How do you write: computer, longhand or other?

Again, it depends on what I’m doing.  If I have my computer up and handy then most likely on my computer, but I carry a small moleskin journal everywhere.  Just in case.

Your favorite blog post that you have written? (add link)

So far….it has to be Disloyal Order of Orange Buffalo

I swear one of these days I will actually write something new that becomes my favorite.

What’s one of your favorite books from childhood?

OOOOOOOOOOOh.  Well, could be A Little Princess or The Secret Garden (I still have those exact copies).  It could be the storybook of the movie Labyrinth (because I was obsessed with it).  It could be The Harper Hall Trilogy by Anne McCaffrey and The Keeper of the Isis Light by Monica Hughes (first intro to Sci-Fi) or the Prydain Chronicles by Lloyd Alexander(first intro to fantasy).  Your pick.  They’re all amazing.  😉

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

Grateful for last week:  Ah hell, I’m a little late here…BUT I did get a much needed massage Sunday so I’m grateful I treated myself.

Looking forward to this week: Tomorrow I fly to Idaho (and will be reporting from there) and will be picked up at the airport by my younger brother and my adorable nephew who is going to introduce me to the movie, Frozen, because I still haven’t seen it and apparently he watches it on repeat.

I’m hoping to have more time tomorrow to write.  Have a great Wednesday!



It’s a down and drrrrty post

Published March 24, 2014 by Tritrigirl

So since I’m frantically running around like a crazy person getting my shit together for work travel this morning and I’ve totally not gotten caught up on y’all’s posts from over the weekend.  I will try to get caught up tonight or tomorrow.

But it’s Monday so that means….Steve Says Monday Music Mix

In case you were too busy crying over Maggie and Glen getting back together (spoilers) here’s the rules:

“Each week I will post 3 new questions so…

(1) Go to the music player of your choice and put it on shuffle
(2) Say the questions aloud and press play
(3) Use the song title as your answers

Title your post “Steve’s Music Mix – …” and link back to this week’s page.

Post your response in the comment section of that week’s page.”

Where have you come from?  Hung the Moon – Better Than Ezra

Comments: “You say you’re lost, a bit confused, but when the day is done.  I’ll be with you…The hours whisper a lie…you frayed the sun, shot out the stars, you paled the sky and hung the moon.”   A little lost, a bit confused but trying to believe…yeah, that’s definitely where I’ve come from.

Where are you at? Cosmic Love – Florence and the Machine

Comments: “A falling star fell from your heart and landed in my arms…the stars that move, they have all been blown out, you left me in the dark, no dawn, no day, I’m always in this twilight in the shadow of your heart.”  Ah love…well…I think this is pretty obvious from past posts where I’m at right now…Okay, Steve, this is getting a little creepy.

Where are you going? Happy Day MãMã – Better Than Ezra

Comments: “I wrote a 3 page note to ask you why you live your life, disregard the pretense that you made.  Come alive, come alive, watch the city go by.  Turn me up, turn me up…Oooooh, how wonderful you are.”  Ah…this song.  Always makes me feel like those days in the beginning of a relationship when everything shiny and new and you want to know everything about them and can’t wait to talk to them, see them, just be around them.  Despite the fact that I’m never sure if he’s saying Turn me up or Tie me up (which depending, either works) I love this song.  Disgustingly peppy and happy.  I don’t think I need to elaborate any further as to where this song is saying I’m going.  Oh lord.  The crush on Mike is enough on its own.  If we go down this road, we’re in trouble.

So that sums up the Monday Music Mix.  Now if you’ll excuse me I need to frantically finish packing, get out of the jammies and get the cat into the carrier and to the vet for boarding.  I’m hoping to get to Cee’s Share your world later on and then a debrief of the weekend (snore).  Catch ya on the flip side!

This is the end…

Published March 21, 2014 by Tritrigirl


It’s Friday, so what’s up?

Weellll…I’ve registered for another Triathlon because I’m crazy like that.  Local one at the lake where I do most of my hard core triathlon training.  I got a nice little bonus from work so that was lovely.  Got to beef up the savings account and soon I’ll have some credit cards paid off so hopefully that will go a long way to getting other cards paid off and getting some more money saved to get some work done on the house.

This weekend there’s a 30% and 40% chance of rain and depending on how realistic it is I’m hoping to at least get the lawn mowed.  Although I’d love to get into the flower beds and weed then mulch.  I need to figure out which trees survived and yank the saplings that didn’t.  Massage scheduled for Sunday and I’m really looking forward to that!

Scott’s going to a concert tonight.  And I’m not exactly sure what’s gotten into him lately…but let’s say he’s been rather amorous lately.  I’d love to say that meant cuddling but given the, erm, bedroom gymnastics he’s been inclined to engage in this past week I’m okay with no cuddling.  Really it’s me laying there after going, “Where the fuck did THAT come from?”  He’s been almost completely uninterested except for the occasional drunken foray that I’d pretty much given up even trying anymore.  So I’m not sure if it’s been that Mike and I have gotten “close” (no hanky panky, just a lot of affection and flirting) and therefore he must do the caveman thing and physically claim his territory (which is kinda hot think about, just don’t think of dogs “claiming” their territory by peeing – Eeeeiiiooowww)  or if he’s just coming out of his slump for whatever reason.  I’m just going with it.  That’s easier.

So what to do with myself tonight…Scott thinks I should go to a friend’s kid’s birthday party but I wasn’t invited and while we’ve been friends off and on and Scott’s kids are friends with her I wasn’t invited.  Last year I wasn’t invited but it turned out I was expected to be there…except Scott and I weren’t on good terms so I didn’t even know about it.  I told him last night that Jen (T’s mom) didn’t invite me and I feel weird going without hearing something from her first.  Scott thinks I should go anyway and that it would be expected I would go regardless.  I haven’t decided.  I’m inclined to drop by, say hi and drop off a present then take off.  Tween girl parties can be weird and I’ve discovered more than once being at those parties and not being an “official” mom can get awkward.

Them: “So, do you have kids?”

Me: “No, just furry ones.”

Them: “Oh….so how do you know  ______?”

Me: “My non-boyfriend’s youngest son and T are friends.”  And T’s dad crashed at my house for 6 months after her parents got a divorce and then he suddenly moved to Arkansas.  (I totally leave that out…even more awkward.  It was completely platonic, we were all hanging out all the time and Ray needed a place to crash after Jen kicked him out, then he abruptly left and we’ve heard very little from him since he left)

Them: “Oh.  Are they here?”

Me: “No, they’re with their mom this weekend.”  crickets….crickets…crickets….

I’ve been through this enough to know how much not fun it is.  If Scott’s there then it’s one thing, but he won’t be so it’s awkward as I discovered a couple of years ago when I went alone.   So, I may run to Target after the gym and get her some spa stuff (12 years old girls…this I can shop for) then drop it by.

I still want to hang out with Mike if he doesn’t have plans.  I know he doesn’t do a lot on the weekends, typically, and it beats sitting at home watching TV alone.   Then again I may take advantage of no men around and rent some chick flick from Red Box and see if I can’t get my estrogen levels up.

I was thinking about this earlier when a commercial made me teary.  I’m far more likely to cry in a movie or commercial than I am for me or a close friend.  When it’s me or a close friend I shut down and go into triage / damage control mode and don’t even process anything on my own behalf.  Until later.  When something personal does make me cry it’s usually because emotions have built up so much that the boiling pot explodes all over the place and I end up with those gut wrenching, rip your heart out kind of tears.  But it usually takes a lot to get me there.  I’m not normally weepy on my own behalf.

But anyway.  I hope everyone has an amazing weekend!  Check y’all on Monday!



Same Poo different day

Published March 20, 2014 by Tritrigirl

It’s Thursday.  I went to boot-y camp.  Got the poo beat outta me by boot-y camp.  It was a hard day but it was a blast!  Sad I only have a few days left but I’m not going to pay an extra $75 / month to go on top on my gym membership so…you know…Scott offered to pay for it once and I told him he could just give me the $75 a month instead.  😛

Anyway, skipped yoga last night and met the boys out for dinner to discover Scott was out with a co-worker and had left Mike in charge of Tater tot…now Tater Tot is pretty well behaved but that wasn’t exactly what Mike signed up for when he agreed to bring the kiddo to dinner.  I was annoyed on his behalf too.  When Scott showed up (finally) he’d already had a few beers and proceeded to give Mike shit in front of Scott’s new co-worker for things that have occurred at past parties and gatherings.  The same shit he gives him EVERY TIME we go out.

I’m sitting there watching Mike and I can’t tell if he’s getting annoyed but I sure as hell am so I kept trying to change the subject and we eventually got it changed at which point we all asked for checks and get the hell out of there.  There are days when I look at Scott and think, you know, you’re an asshole.  It’s not all the time and I’m sure he has those moments with me but last night just seemed unnecessary.  Like, cool story, bro, you should get new material.  Ah well.  I don’t know Mike well enough to figure out if he was annoyed or not.  I almost apologized on Scott’s behalf though.

So today, I’m trying to get through as much work as I can as quickly as I can because I’m leaving in 30 minutes to go get my hair done.  Then taking the rest of the afternoon off.  I used to not take the afternoon off when I’d get my hair done but depending on what Jaime’s doing it can take from 2-3 hours and in the end that’s a long time for me to be away from my desk so it’s easier to take the afternoon.  I’m thinking a self date lunch after the primping and then a NAP.

I started knitting over the weekend and it dawned on me that I have no idea what the hell I’m knitting.  I do have a few patterns but reading them is crazy…I’m also not one of those that can read something and know how to do it (Scott is, bastard).  I have to be shown, plus I’m a lefty doing it right handed.  So, I’m really just practicing because I’m still getting used to it (thank you Wiki-How videos).  And honestly, it’s somewhat soothing in a way and it keeps me from picking and chewing my fingers when I’m watching TV (bonus).  If I can get over that then I will start getting my nails done again.  I just never do as great a job as those ladies at the nail salon when I do it at home.

Tonight the potatoes (lol) go to their mom’s and Scott and I are doing something, I think…probably watching the DVR.  Tomorrow he’s going to see Flogging Molly with friends and I’m going to try to hang out with Mike.  I’m trying to be cool about it…

Me: “Have plans for Friday?”

Him: “Not that I know of, what’s up?”

Me: “Scott’s going to a concert so I was asking around to see what people were up to.  (Like I’ve really asked anyone else so far)  So, if you’re not busy I may bug you to do something.”

Him: “Okay, just let me know.”


On another note I discovered that today is International Happiness Day?  So uh…

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

– Happy – Pharrell

You know you wanna clap…yes, yes, you do, come on now….  PS – Be glad it isn’t EVERYTHING IS AWESOME!  😛

Happy Thursday!

Lots, lots, lots and Lots…

Published March 19, 2014 by Tritrigirl

Last night I heard from my cousin and my grandma is continuing to decline.  She’s not sure how much longer she’ll hold on but she was suggesting that I might want to come see her, just in case.  She could rally, but I can hear the fear and worry and stress coming from my cousin in her message.  So I booked a last minute flight and will be heading up to Couer d’Alene next week to see my grandma and spend some time with my family.  Unfortunately my dad, stepmom, brother and his girlfriend won’t be there.

On one hand it’s okay since then I don’t have to stress between spending time with them and my other brother, sister in law and nephew (they all get along now but it’s a lot of family to catch up with and inevitably a whole lot of drama) and on the other, I really hope nothing happens to my grandma while they’re out of town.  My dad would never forgive himself.  But I’m in a shitty mood and feel like, if something happens and you didn’t take advantage of being in close proximity to her and visiting her before you left town then it serves you right.  Yes, I’m an awful daughter.  But there’s a whole background story there that I’m not going into right now.

To sum up – Grandma has Alzheimer’s and my stepmom originally thought her “forgetfulness” was to get attention and my dad just can’t handle this whole thing.  My cousin, who’s a lawyer, took control of the situation and got her into a great facility and is spending time with her regularly.  My dad and stepmom do not…the facility is 15 minutes from their house.  To be fair my other grandmother is 2 hours from my house and I don’t see her nearly as much as I could, but as soon as I heard she was in assisted living I went to see her and as soon as she came home, I was there to see her.  I could be there more but the drive is taxing to make all the time.  If it was 15 minutes, I’d see her more often for sure.

The next week is going to be full.  I’m traveling to OKC Monday – Wednesday and then getting on a plane again Thursday and staying until Wednesday.  I’m taking time off work too so that will be nice.  It’s shitty circumstances but I’m looking forward to seeing the family.

Tonight is going to be an early night so that I can get up for Boot Camp in the morning so I’m trying to not go to Scott’s.  I always feel guilty if I don’t go over there and they’re home.  It’s ridiculous and I know that but I do.

On a lighter note.  Laura over at History of a Woman kindly nominated me for a Liebster Award.  THANK YOU!  I feel so special.  I nominated some people a couple of weeks ago for this but I want to go ahead and answer her questions, because that’s always fun and it’s a good distraction from all the family stuff that’s going on.

1. What made you choose the title for your blog?

Well, originally it was Blundering through life like a bull in a china shop or sometimes a ninja.  But that’s long.  Although it’s incredibly fitting…I have a habit of walking in (metaphorically) and smashing shit up…or stealthily sneaking in and out before anyone notices.  😉

2. What was your very first post about? Link it up!

Almost Up…

3. What do you think was the best post you ever wrote?

I think my best has been Disloyal Order of Orange Buffalo, because I felt like it was one of the more challenging writing challenges that I took on.

4. You’re at your computer (where ever you blog most from)…What is sitting close to hand?

Phone, giant cup of water, headset, dishes from breakfast and lunch and two monitors with a docking station.

5. Do you always order the same thing when you go out or do you like to try new foods?  Depends on where I’m at…sometimes I really want the same thing I had last time.  For instance, HFG has a burger called the Big Contradiction.  It’s a veggie (real veggie, not that tofu weirdo pretend beef patty) patty with bacon, cheese and avocado.  I almost ALWAYS order this because it’s amazing.

6. What was the first blog you found online that you fell in “blog love” with?

Not a Punk Rocker and History of a Woman.  (Not kissing ass, promise)  I kinda felt like I met my people when I was reading their blogs.  Thanks ladies!

7. What’s your most favorite piece of clothing you own?


8. If you were trapped on an island and could only have one book with you, what book would you bring?

I’m going to cheat here just a little…DragonLance Chronicles by Weis and Hickman.  This was / is an amazing book and I bawled off and on through it.  I’d read it repeatedly if it didn’t take so long.

9. What’s something new you have learned recently?

That owls aren’t always wise?  That if a tree falls in a forest it still makes a sound?  Just kidding.  It was some work mumbo jumbo I learned today that would be lost in translation.

10. Who is your favorite author?

This is a really hard one…I don’t have any ONE favorite author.  I’ll read almost anything by James Rollins, but he’s not my all time favorite.  Short list: Diana Gabaldon, Kelley Armstrong, Kim Harrison, Margaret Atwood, James Rollins, Greg Iles, and Emily Green.

11. What’s the corniest joke you know?

Guy walks into a bar…the other one ducks…

Happy Wednesday all and have a great rest of the week!

Hot, er, well, cold mess

Published March 18, 2014 by Tritrigirl

I’d go with Hot Mess, except that the wind is making it chilly even with the sun out so I’m sitting here in a sweater, yoga pants and slippers and still cold.  ERG.

I swear I meant to be good last night but Scott and Mike wanted to take all the potato kids to the St. Patty’s day thing and of course, Guinness was consumed.  As was the AMAZING corned beef po’boy.  I’m not sure if it was the corned beef, the Guinness or the cole slaw that gave me the weirdest dreams ever but I seriously had some freaky dreams.

I’ll try to recap as much as I can because this shit has got to be shared.

In one montage, Scott had built bridges to the other neighbors’ decks, which is odd because the old people living on either side of him do not have decks.  And for some reason that pissed me off.  So I was picking up his bedroom and found panties that weren’t mine (yes, I’m aware of what this alludes to) and proceeded to chew him out.  In front of other people.  Not sure how we go from here to…

My Tri friend, hairstylist and over all badass friend and I were taking a bus to somewhere.  Not sure where but the place we started I have visited in a dream before and I think it was supposed to be Boise.  How Jaime and I were in Boise, no clue.  And this was not just another bus…oh no…this bus had a GYM in it! (Apparently my sub-conscious was aware we’d slept through the alarm and missed boot camp and was trying, very ineffectively, to tell me to get my ass up and go to the gym) The bus also had beds and showers and was freaky to walk around in.  I think we were going to Delaware…and I think it was for some hair stylist thing and a ghost hunt, now that I think about it.

And on to…DREAMING IN MY DREAM.  Yes, I was in bed asleep and dreaming that I was in my bed asleep, dreaming (blew your mind, right?).  I dreamt that I’d dumped out the litter box upstairs (no idea why) and then there was an infestation of fire ants on my bathroom counter.  I woke up (in my dream) to discover that I had dumped out the litter box in my sleep and that all my lights were on.  I also apparently texted Scott in my dream, asking if he’d snuggle with me and when he said No, told him that Mike would.  This led to frantic text message checking upon true awakening…thankfully that text was never written.

So, later ON in the dream I’m now awake in the dream and for some reason we’re going to grill rabbit meat.  I’ve never had rabbit that I can recall and I have no idea why we were going to grill it, except that maybe I’ve been sub-consciously wondering what Scott is going to do with the rabbit meat he got from the store a while ago.  So Mike and I along with his brother (no idea if he has one) were going outside to grill when it comes out that his brother is actually with us to ensure no misbehaving happens (the fuck?) and then he subsequently drops the rabbit meat on the ground but hey, no biggie, we can wash it off (hunh?) and then he falls down in a fire ant pile and we help him up and try to brush the ants off.

That’s the last thing I can recall from the dreams.

So I obviously missed boot camp.  I wanted to go to Body Pump to make up for it but I have a conference call during the one time I could go.  I don’t think I need to be on this call but I was never answered when I asked if I need to be on said call.  So I don’t know what I’m going to do for a work out today but it has to get done before 5:30 since I have a wax appointment (yes, I get my legs waxed and yes, I like the results – totally worth it) so I guess I’ll head to the gym around 4 to get some time in on the hell machine and try to get to Body pump tomorrow.  I think I’ve decided that as long as I can make boot camp once a week, I’m good (I’ve got 4 days left anyway).  Then I’ll start Body Pump in it’s place.

Such a weird night…any way.  Hope everyone is well and had a good time last night!

Shaking off the nasty…

Published March 17, 2014 by Tritrigirl

Well, my life has been insane on a few levels since I last posted.  Let’s try to sum up…

Thursday – SXSW train rides = suckage.  Too many people and too many delays but nonetheless thankful it’s there.

Flat tire in the middle of the night = MAJOR suckage.  Can’t change it when you can’t find all the pieces to the tire iron which leads to…angry VM left on Scott’s phone in the middle of the night because I can’t find all the pieces parts to the tire iron and therefore it’s his fault.  PS – Phone dying, can’t call a cab, walk 4 blocks to find a bar to have THEM call me a cab (Thank goodness for the nice staff at The Roost for helping).  Also find out Grandma is declining health-wise.  😦

Friday – Found out I could still change a tire.  CAR -0, Stephanie – for the win!  Dinner with one of my BFFs.  Finished Cinder.  Great book!

Saturday – get up a 0 dark thirty, thought Scott’s plane was an hour later, fly down the tollroad to get him.  Spent 45 minutes getting new tire (HUZZAH).  Bought knitting paraphernalia as have friends who knit at local pub.  Starting knitting and baking Amiira’s Crack Brownies for party.

Saturday PM – Beer tasting, UFC, Cards Against Humanity, Rock Band.  Mike was there.  Spent most of evening hanging out with Mike…if Scott noticed it didn’t bother him although Mike was sure he’s “catch” us.  (?) Annoyed with Scott for wanting to leave early, but he then got caught up in a game of beer pong so we got to hang out longer (am realizing that I’m getting annoyed with Scott more and more often and really for no reason which I then feel bad about).  No hanky panky, did snuggle on the couch randomly with him and Mike chastised me for not calling him to rescue me when I had the flat.  I unintentionally kissed him on the lips when I left.  Seriously, unintentional.  I kissed my other friend when I was leaving too.  I get lovey dovey sometimes after drinks.  Sang Carry On Wayward Son by Kansas amongst others.  So.Much.Fun.

Sunday – Not enough sleep but was okay with that.  Went to the gym.  Recuperated.  Knitted.  Started reading Scarlett the follow up to Cinder.  Slept like a log for the first time in over a week.  I just do not sleep well at Scott’s house.  I try but between the dogs randomly getting up and walking around, his pillows being too flat for a side sleeper and his bed being too hard because he has back problems I just don’t sleep well over there.

Monday – Feeling goooooooooood.  Got lots of work to do today but it’s making the day go by faster.  Going to try to get in a run before yoga or at least some hell machine.  Back in the swing with boot camp this week too, since I hardly slept at Scott’s there was no getting up at 5 am.  UGH.

So this today we’re shaking off the nasty and getting back into the groove.  And I downloaded Happy by Pharrell and Do I Wanna Know? by the Artic Monkeys.

(Do I wanna know?)
If this feeling flows both ways
(Sad to see you go)
Was sorta hoping that you’d stay
(Baby we both know)
That the nights were mainly made for saying
things that you can’t say tomorrow day

Crawling back to you…
Artic Monkeys